What to build before the silence, and how to hold your own through it.

The Distance Submissive’s Kit is a workbook for a submissive whose dynamic lives across miles and time zones. It is written from my side of the table, the side that knows what distance does to a dominant’s attention, and it gives you structure for the days nobody answers. Nothing in it is an order; every page is yours to fill in, or to leave blank.

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A free sample, Tasks for the Quiet Days, arrives by email.

The cover of The Distance Submissive’s Kit: a plum page with the title and the line, a workbook for keeping your submission safe, steady, and yours across the miles.

Who it is for

  • You are in a long-distance or online D/s dynamic, or close to beginning one.
  • You know the late hour when your submission feels as if it only exists while someone is looking.
  • You are past the beginning and want structure, self-knowledge, and safety you can check for yourself.
  • You would like a dominant to sit down with you and fill in an agreement that runs both ways.

Who it is not for

  • Anyone looking for erotic material. Nothing in it is written to arouse.
  • Anyone who wants to be told what to do, graded, or ranked. The book keeps no score.
  • Anyone in danger right now or being pressured. The book points toward real help and cannot stand in for it.

What distance does, from my side

Attention becomes the only visible proof that the dynamic exists, and attention is the first thing a working week takes away. A dominant who is busy, tired, or asleep in another time zone goes quiet without meaning anything by it, and on your side of the screen the quiet gets loud. Silence with no agreement behind it is ambiguous, and ambiguity is where a submissive starts living on crumbs.

The answer I trust is structure built in advance: a contact rhythm both of you can keep, a limit on how long a silence may run before someone checks in, practices you keep alone that are good for you first, and a plan for the night it goes badly. Distance is also where people who are not safe do their best work, so verification belongs before devotion. Structure holds when attention cannot, and that is the whole idea of this book.

What is inside

  1. 01
    The Distance Problem, Named

    A map of your own loud hours and the clock between you, and the one idea the book rests on: structure holds when attention cannot.

  2. 02
    Knowing Your Own Shape

    An inventory of what your submission is made of, your early signs of a low day, and a Yes, Not Yet, No sort that feeds the agreement.

  3. 03
    Vetting at a Distance, and the Red Flags

    A verification ladder, what a careful dominant volunteers without being asked, and the red flags worth leaving over, from money and pressure to isolation, secrecy, and refusal to be verified.

  4. 04
    The Distance Agreement

    A two-way agreement you draft alone first and then fill in with a dominant, clause by clause, with a reason beside every clause and an exit either of you may use at any time.

  5. 05
    The Contact Rhythm and the Clock

    A small number of reliable contacts in place of a constant ration, with plain language for asking for structure instead of more messages.

  6. 06
    The Solo Task Library

    Thirty-six grounding, ritual, and service-to-self cards for the days you are alone, each one an invitation with its own stop rule.

  7. 07
    Rituals for the In-Between

    A daily anchor, a weekly fixed point, and a tiered ritual for when the silence runs long, so you are never improvising in the dark.

  8. 08
    The Journaling Track

    Four weeks of new prompts, a letter you write in advance to the low day, and a monthly rereading page.

  9. 09
    Solo Safety

    Subdrop with no one in the room, the aftercare you give yourself, a Reach-Out Plan that includes a person outside the kink world, and a monthly re-check of the red flags.

  10. 10
    The Call Check-In and Debrief

    A before, during, and after for every call, so a drop is caught early and the aftercare each of you owes the other has a place on the page.

  11. 11
    Reconnection After a Gap

    A gentle way back after a long stretch, with an honest account of whether the silence kept to the agreement.

  12. 12
    The 30-Day Tracker

    A calm record of a month with no streaks and no scores, where a missed day is simply left blank.

  13. 13
    Carrying It in the Daily World

    Who knows what, a privacy check for shared devices, and a few honest sentences for awkward moments.

  14. 14
    Printable Pages

    Clean single-sided spares for a binder, including a Signals Card and a standalone Reach-Out Plan.

Three pages from the book

The contents page of the Kit, listing its sections.
Contents
A page of solo task cards from the Kit, each with its own stop rule.
Solo task cards
The Reach-Out Plan page from the Kit, with spaces for names, numbers and a message to send on a low night.
The Reach-Out Plan (also in the free sample)
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The format, plainly

  • A PDF of 95 pages, A4.
  • Fillable on screen, or printable to write in by hand.
  • Your private download page opens right after checkout, and a delivery email repeats the link.
  • One-time purchase, $27.

The pages that protect you are also in the free sample: the Reach-Out Plan and the Signals Card cost nothing, because nobody should have to pay for the pages that keep them safe. The book is a workbook, and it never replaces real help. If you are in danger or being pressured, a friend, a professional, or your local emergency number comes before any page I have written.

Questions

Is it explicit?
No. Nothing in the Kit is sexual or written to arouse, every task is non-sexual, and there is no technique instruction for any risky practice. It is about structure, safety, and how you hold yourself across distance.
Do I need a partner to use it?
No. Most of the book is yours alone: the self-knowledge pages, the task library, the journaling track, the safety section, and the tracker. The agreement pages work best with a dominant, and your column can be drafted alone first, whether or not anyone is there yet to fill in the other.
Can a dominant use it?
A dominant can fill in their column of the agreement, and a careful one will want to. The book is written to you, though, and it is not a manual for running a submissive. Someone who wants to use it that way has shown you something worth noticing.
How is it delivered, and what shows on my statement?
Checkout is a secure Stripe page run by my other publication, the one written for the dominant’s side. After payment you go straight to your private download page, and a delivery email with the same link follows. Stripe sends a receipt as well. How the charge is labeled on your statement is set by your bank and the payment account, so I would rather not guess at it here.
What about refunds?
If it is not what you needed, write to me within 14 days and you get your money back. No reasons required.

By Sir Linus

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One-time.

If you would rather see the pages first, Tasks for the Quiet Days is free and arrives by email.